I can’t believe it’s been a month since I last posted. I mean, I can. Whenever Chris asks How was your day, my first thought and actual answer is often: fast. I’m not sure why I thought time would slow down once all the kids were in school. But it hasn’t. Is this the same phenomenon that happens when people retire? It seems like every retired person I’ve ever met says some version of ‘busier than ever’ when asked about their new phase of life — yet can’t say I believed it.
Every day, I think about what I want to write here. I have so many ideas for this space and while I have drafts upon drafts lingering in the cloud — next to untold numbers of abandoned virtual shopping carts — it’s often hard for me to set aside the time to finished, to prioritize that which isn’t a necessity.
Even something so simple as documenting a day only happens with some accountability.
Which is what brings me here today.
I’m a part of “Exhale Creativity” which is an online space, born out of Coffee+Crumbs, for mothers who want to pursue creativity alongside their motherhood journey (the tagline includes “for the enrichment of both experiences”). They host a monthly “Blog Hop” — where one blog links to another, and it’s either theme-based or has a similar structure.
Inspiration. Accountability. Community. The Trifecta of getting stuff done.
This month’s prompt was to create a photo essay with the theme Everyday Magic.
// EVERYDAY MAGIC //
My mornings: Coffee, my Bible, Ash. I love this combination and want my days to start like this forever.
Mornings here are slow and lazy — until they absolutely aren’t. Every day, I experience a chronological slingshot. The slow pull back lasts from the time I crawl out of bed up till the time the last kid wakes up. Then, though it’s predictable it still feels sudden, I’m sailing through the air faster than I ever wanted to go.
In case my daughters want to know, I have three (what I would call very loosely) ‘beauty secrets.’ Sleep, water, multivitamins.
But, like many people, I’ve collected a few ‘Look Put Together Quickly’ tricks. (Necessity is the mother of invention.) These come in handy when you, oh I don’t know, remember at 8:50 am that one of your children has a doctor’s appointment at 9:30 am and you’re still in pajamas and need to get lunches made and everyone to school still. So here they are. Step 1. Put on a top and bottom or any easy dress. Step 2. Add at least one of the following: Big earrings, red lipstick, or a leopard print cardigan. Looking in the mirror is optional.
The kitchen. Needed to document. I spend so much time in here. Here it is in the relentless, fast-moving, losing cycle of going from clean/straightened/organized — to this.
Every once in a while, I neglect everthing including the kitchen and make a decision I’ve never regretted: spending an hour walking in nature.
Picking up the kids from school. I’ll call this “The Long Walk Home.”
What I’ve noticed in trying to document 24 hours is that I see my big kids less than I used to. They’re just less physically close to me the way the little ones still are — the way they used to be when they were that young. It also might be that I have my hands really full (with carpools, dinner, clean up, bedtime) when all four of them are home — and doing this photo journal wasn’t right on the front of my mind all day.
A lot of my life involves chauffering.
But. In this season of life, I can also step into spaces that don’t involve my family. Like co-leading a group at my church on racial reconciliation.
“Well, you can tell we’re really connecting,” one woman said the other night when many of us brought unsolicited snacks “– we’re starting to feed each other.”
Building relationships and caring for each other’s hearts and offering food? That’s called communion and I’m here for it. (We’re using the course curriculum from Be The Bridge. )
And here, in color, is the road I drove one hundred (thousand million) times a week.
This post was written as part of a blog hop with Exhale—an online community of women pursuing creativity alongside motherhood, led by the writing team behind Coffee + Crumbs. Click here to read the next post in this series “Everyday Magic.”
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