May We Be Women, a prayer for 2019



I love the New Year. The built-in change of pace with the kids off school, the inherent call to both reflect and look ahead. The single moment between the old and the new, what was and what could be, then and now.

As many of you know, I like to set goals, if for no other reason than to keep my bohemian mind facing in the right direction. I know that if I don’t say I want to read books or exercise, I’m more likely to sit on the couch and daydream out a window. If I don’t write down that I’d like to engage more with my kids, I might not think twice about reading so much, so often on my phone. If I don’t meal plan, we eat pancakes for dinner. (Not at all a bad thing, it happened last night — we just can’t do that every night.)

This is a confession: I am subject to inertia, and entropy, and atrophy.

The new year, for me, is a force to change directions, a chance to bring what feels like chaos into order, and an opportunity to begin nurturing what’s been neglected.

Like many New Years, I write down my thoughts, my goals, my intentions for the year. (It’s a solid list.) But my heart longs for more than just things to do this year.

Maybe yours is too?




In 2019,

may we be women

less hurried and more patient.

Less busy and more present.

Less worried and more gentle.

With our words, our thoughts, and our actions.


In 2019,

may we be women who memorize our children’s growing, changing faces, and look into their eyes

more often than we’re found staring at our computers, our planners, and our phones.

May we be women

who care less about accomplishment and more about the hearts of the people right in front of us.


In 2019,

may we be women who use our gifts,

humbly offer what we have,

who pay attention,

and speak with confidence.


May we be women

who seek wisdom,

and are known for who and what we love

more than who or what we wear.


May we be women who laugh.

Who rest.

Who say No without guilt. And Yes without guilt.

And who have the discernment to know the difference.


May we seek God instead of social media.

Jesus instead of crowdsourcing.

May we walk actual steps of faith instead of speaking too often about good ideas.

May we stop staying silent, whether out of habit or out of fear.


May we be women

known to pray so boldly,

because we openly confess our belief in a God capable of more than we could ever ask or imagine,

that we receive more texts, emails, and phone calls asking for prayer than compliments on our haircuts.


May we be women marked by joy,



and kindness.


May we be women

who host friends for dinner and afternoon cups of coffee, regardless of how disorganized or small we think our homes are.


May we sow seeds of good news more than we seek success.

May we value bravery over perfection

and measure our work as substance over sharability, quality over quantity, and heart over hustle.

May we shed concern over slow unproductive days and wears shoes of peace.


In 2019,

may we have eyes to see what we have

discernment over what we need

and a content heart always.









Photo by Javardh on Unsplash

Sonya Spillmann


  1. This is perfect. This spoke to me, connected to my heart and my thoughts. Thank you for writing it so beautifully! Yes- I pray I can work on all of those things this year!

  2. beautifully written. Thank You for this encouraging post.
    Thank you for sharing.

  3. I love this. My favorite: “may we be women who memorize our children’s growing, changing faces, and look into their eyes more often…”! Our little children need us now and before we know it they’ll be on their own. Thank you for your words.

  4. I’m to speak at our church’s ladies day celebration. I am not having success with what to speak on. I found your article “May We Be Women, 2019” and loved it. Could I have permission to us portions of your article in my talk on March 24th? Thank you!

    • Donna — I’m so sorry I’m just seeing this. Yes, you could have used it. Anything here is “public” … as long as credit is given to the source, you can for sure reference anything you find publically/ online!

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